attitude

Asana - The Elements and Body Movement

The Asana Elements

Body Movement Training

In each class physical positions are executed in a choreographic format, with distinct passages between techniques. This concept was restored from the vestiges of Ancient Yôga during the codification of the DeRose Method. It not only adds a beauty and grace to every class but deepens your strength, flexibility, balance, agility and coordination.

The power of an apology

Sorry [Original text by DeRose, translated by Fabs].

The use of an apology can prevent up to 90% of the conflicts with friends or strangers. It just may not work as well with relatives, but it will still attenuated strains significantly.

An apology must be used only when you make a mistake, but rather when make them too. If someone bumps you in the subway, you are certain that it was the other person’s fault, however you say: “I’m sorry”. The other person will likely apologize too! Or, if the other person is convinced that it was your fault, they may say “it’s ok”. The gains in your short and long term heath resulting from the avoidance a conflict with strangers, with friends or relatives is priceless.

So, let us attempt a psychological re-education. You may have learned that when others make mistakes, it is their responsibility to apologize. Now you will re-learn: when you make a mistake you apologize, and when others make a mistake you apologize as well.

Never say, “Did you not understand what I just said?” Instead of this indelicate phrase, solemnly declare: “I am sorry. I think I did not express myself well”.

What about circumstances where taking responsibility could cost you a tidy sum? For example, you could be in a traffic accident, you are certain it was the other driver’s fault! But he is also sure that it was yours … Why don’t you take the blame and apologize? Your insurance pays will pay regardless. You are uninsured? Well, I am not writing to you. Everyone has to have all insurances, for your car, your home, your life, your health. Whomever does not have it is so shortsighted that it would make no sense to read a text like this. And please, do not claim that you have no money right now, that excuse doesn’t work. You could have bought a car marginally cheaper and insured it easily with the savings.

But what about the law and justice? How can you take responsibility for something which is not your fault? Would this not be a merely cowardly attitude? On the contrary! It definitely takes greater courage and dignity to assume your own culpability, but it is even greater if you assume someone else’s. This is what numerous national saints and heroes have done, people with a high sense of humanitarian commitment, to a point of self-sacrificing their ego and sometimes even their life.

However, before you are ready to use the apology strategy you must eliminate the typical guilt found in former colonies. In Latin America, “desculpa-me” (excuse me) is said with humility and inferiority, while in the colonizing countries this phrase is used to exert superiority over the person being talked to.

In France, the phrase “pardon M’sier” is used as a resource with someone who has been indelicate, or has had some other form of bad behavior in any circumstance.

In England, and other English speaking countries, “I beg your pardon” can be used as an admonition with superiority and elegance with someone who has been impertinent or arrogant or has done something wrong.

In both cases, the person who has apologized did so with their head held high, with an attitude of someone who is superior to the other. The apology is used to downgrade the listener, forcing the response to be a justification. In the case of English, the person is instigated to modify their statement. For example, if the person had said: ” Did you removed the object that was here?” saying “I beg your pardon” has the power to change the attitude of the accuser to something like: “I’m sorry, what I meant was, that you may have inadvertently stumbled and dropped the object in question.” You can immediately notice a stark difference in attitude of the colonizer and the colonized by the way they apologize.

As I am writing to readers who have traveled and are cosmopolitan (if it is not the case, you will soon be, through reading of my books), I propose that you assume a posture of elevated self-esteem when using the apology strategy. In doing so, you will not be humiliating or stooping yourself, on the contrary, you will be thinking to yourself: “I have controlled the situation and I dominated this brute before me. I am pleased for having been able to do it with an intelligent management of my resources. In the cost vs. benefit equation, I have saved time and stress, and finally I have been elegant to a person who may be useful in the future.”

Stop Complaining

Author: Gustavo Cardoso Some time ago, a friend of mine was unexpectedly asked to teach an extraordinary class and I was tasked with picking up her son at his school. As soon as I saw the boy at the entrance of the school, before we could even say hello, he asked me, “where is my mother?” As he said this he sounded mushy and sad as he realised that his mother was not going to pick him up at school.

As we walked back home he asked me, “what are we having for dinner”. I promptly replied that we would have wild rice with sun dried tomatoes and artichokes. At this point he deflated like a balloon, it seemed a helpless situation.

Like in a scene from a movie, halfway through our walk home, his eyes drenched, he said: “if only you knew how hard my life is.”

The hilarious nature of the situation struck me hard and I had to make a super-human effort not to laugh. Nonetheless, I understood he felt he had a colossal and deep drama in his life, indeed a very difficult place to be at.

When I look back at this scene I always feel warmth in my heart as I know the little boy has overcome his drama. Today he loves the dish we had for dinner that night and he is, everyday, more independent from his mother.

This boy was 7 years old at the time. No one could remove his right to feel what he was feeling, and we, as adults, have the obligation to give him as much support and affection as was necessary to help him overcome all the obstacles in life empowering him to succeed as a person.

I can absolutely understand this behaviour in a boy, but it is when adults are having this behaviour that I get confounded. Why would they waste their energy complaining about life? When have complaints ever changed anything. Life only changes with attitudes. What changes our lives are actions, not complaints.

There is a very famous phrase from a Brazilian priest which states:

"Our actions make us who we are. What is not done does not exist. Therefore, we only really exist when we are taking actions. On those days in which we do nothing, we merely survive."

I cannot agree enough with this gentleman, I think this phrase is fantastic.

What intrigues me is to see people who have everything in life and still continue complaining. Very much like the young boy. We can easily relate to this boy’s situation to model and understand our own complaints. He was but a few moments from seeing and enjoying the company of his mother. He had a delicious dinner ready for him. Yet, he still regarded his situation as hopeless. This anxiety, however, is understandable when coming from a child who does not have many years of experience.

But if you are an adult who has lived, who has experienced many situations both pleasurable and harsh, if you catch yourself complaining, try substituting your complaints with the following: What can I do to change this situation? This inevitably leads to asking yourself the only pertinent question:

What is it that I am not doing, but which, if I did do, would change everything?

The answer to this question normally is not complaining. What we find is that most of the time we fail to change, to improve, not because it is impossible, but rather, because we create the barriers ourselves, we think we cannot change. So all that is left is complaining.

I can assure, with a fair amount of certainty, that people generally fail to change, not because they don’t want to, but because we are paralysed from fear of what could result if we indeed changed.

Once, when I was talking with a great teacher and friend about this subject I asked him at the height of my innocence, “Professor, why are some people so happy and have such good lives whilst others live so miserably in spite of having all the resources and access to education, health, transportation, everything that is necessary to live a good life?”

He humbled me with his answer, “Gustavo, we are addicted to mediocrity”

I agree with him, there are aspects of my life I know I need to change but sometimes I find myself complaining. I cannot speak of the anger I feel with myself when I catch myself behaving this way, for I know it will not take me anywhere, it will solve nothing whilst wasting my energy complaining.

What I would like to ask you, dear reader, is: what is your attitude towards life? Are a complainer or a doer?

Love vs Fear? Which one would you pick?

Ultimately, every action you undertake is rooted in love or fear. Often there is a mixture of both — a confused muddle of motives.

How many times did you miss magic moments because you were afraid to express yourself?

Do not miss the magic moments. Tell everyone what are you feeling....

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There are “YES" people and "NO" people

Author: Professor Marins.

"Yes" people "Yes" people are those for whom everything is possible if attempted with firmness. "Yes" people are those who believe in principle that all people are good and capable until proven otherwise. “Yes" people are those employees who are always ready to collaborate, to test ideas, to commit their time with a new project. They do everything to make things happen. “Yes" people are excited about what they do, and of the possibilities of doing things differently. “Yes" people are humorous, always with a smile ready. They are those with which we are happy to socialize, talk, and exchange ideas. “Yes" people are those who do everything and still find time to collaborate, participate, help.

“No” people “No” people are those for whom nothing is possible. “No” people are those who claim they have seen this movie before ... and that everything is "bullshit." “No” people are those who are sour and bitter, living with a black cloud over their heads. “No” people are those who do not have time for anything. Are extremely busy (always) and do nothing. “No” people are those who live alone and say they are "doing their duty" which is always critical, non-participating, non-cooperation, non-doing. “No” people are those with which we work in horror.

I suggest you do a self-analysis. Which category do you find yourself in? Are you a "yes" person, and believe in your own ability to overcome obstacles and make things happen with enthusiasm or are you a "no" person and keep saying and thinking you must be "realistic" and not live in dreams thus you do not believe in anything, on anyone or yourself?

Think about it. Beware! The world today only has room for people to say "yes." Success!

Professor Marins is an anthropologist (Macquarie University Austraila – School of Behavioural Sciences). He is a historian, a Lawyer and also has degrees in Political Sciences, Business, Strategy and Marketing, Economic Anthropology and Macroeconomics (London School of Economics) and other degrees and diplomas from Brazil and the world.  Professor Marins is a professor in various universities as well as the chief and secretary of various organizations that work to improve higher education in Brazil. He is also the president of Consortium Systems group (New York) and Triangle Freightliner of Raleigh (North Carolina) and a member of the board of directors of Global Transport Traders. He has written over 25 books

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