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Be Yourself

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The Ethical Code of the Month for February is Satya – truthfulness.
Satya is about truth but not necessarily always being brutally honest with people in a way that offends. 
It relates to honesty with yourself and integrity in what you do.

Start by being honest with yourself – what are your strengths and weaknesses, what can you do less of, or more of? honestly.

The Happiness Syndrome

"If you feel unhappy without reason, or apportion these reasons so small, it may be because you are too happy and is unable to metabolize these happiness. Something like indigestion from too much happiness. Think about it and stop complaining in life. Look for some ideal, art, philanthropy and start having to fight for it. You never need to take Prozac." DeRose

Modern man in evolutionary transition has always sought to win and the incentive to win, for millions of years, has been to gain a sense of satisfaction on an emotional and physiological level.  

As humans, when we feel threatened our in-built design to fight or flight takes charge.  If we manage to fight or flight with success, we manage to overcome threatening situations.  

Fighting to win or flighting the clutches of some predator are two scenarios which involve a struggle through which by defeating another, man can satisfy his core needs.  This is at the centre of man’s instincts.  

The trouble for man begins however when neither outcome, fight nor flight, takes effect.  If unable to outdo or flee such an undesirable despot or situation, what triggers immediately is something else leading to a whole host of physiological disorders.  This ‘something else’ has been extensively studied and analysed for many years, in laboratories and in life.

What has resulted from such analysis is “The Happiness Syndrome”.  This phenomena presents an alternative reality to the one we’ve been discussing above. Instead of fighting or fleeing a situation, a surrendering to the status quo takes place.  

Now the human brain has the sophisticated potential to surrender in this way and therefore suppress the need for a euphoric fight or flight.  But by not meeting this instinctive need the brain (ego) steps in and creates explanations for such a defeat, which fails to meet our instinctive drives.

We can call this a false justification and no human, whatever age or background is exempt from such a sorry state.  If such a state of self continues, in short, the individual will without a doubt begin to feel a total lack of satisfaction in life, simply due to the fact that the instinctive drives to fight or flight are not being fulfilled.  

Instead, a state of falsehood or limbo takes over leaving the individual without any experience of reward or achievement.  This absence of struggle to accomplish anything successfully through any kind of adversity is what contributes to The Happiness Syndrome.

The thing we as humans need to avoid is for this ‘unconscious’ state to set in, which mitigates our discontent by serialising unhappy incidents in our lives with convenient (and false) stories which only perpetuate conditions for us to remain in discontent for far too long.

To become conscious is to remind ourselves of our natural and instinctive drives, and to then accept how beneficial all adversity and challenge can be for us.

If factors in our society and within our four walls do not challenge us or our status quo, then we run the risk of preferring an almost static existence where we choose not to engage with opportunities.  Instead we suffocate our basic human drives from being fulfilled therefore keeping ourselves from enjoying a true state of happiness.

Article by Prof DeRose. Newly revised Serena Desai.

Manage your stress using breathing techniques

The objective of this short technique is to bring more awareness and consciousness to the way you breathe and through this process take a few steps towards improved self esteem and confidence.

Note this is not a therapy, if you suffer from any condition seek professional medical help. This tip, much like the DeRose Method, is not a form of therapy — we would not be qualified for that!it is indeed a way to boost your performance.

So before you start check a couple of things:

1) blow your nostrils and make sure they are not obstructed. For the entirety of this technique we will ask you to breathe exclusively through your nostrils.

2) you body’s position does matter. Try to find a place where you will not be interrupted, where you can sit down and where you can keep your back straight — don’t lean back on the seat. Also pay attention to the position of your neck and keep it along the same line as your
spine, in other words, it is as if you want to be looking slightly up.

Now that you are setup spend the first few moments at simply noticing how you breathe. Try to inhale and exhale slower, using a greater capacity of your lungs. The next time you breathe try to pay attention to each stage in your breathing: inhalation, retention of the air whilst your
lungs are full, exhalation and retention of your lungs empty.

Maintain this breathing and when you next inhale project your abdomen outwards, giving you more room to expand your lungs. When you exhale contract your abdominal muscles to compress your lungs. Your next breathe will have even more air than before. Continue to breathe exclusively through your nostrils. Deeply and slowly.

If you are ready, increase the difficulty. If you so not feel comfortable continue executing this variation until the end of the time. To increase the difficulty add a rhythm. For example, use a
measure of 4 seconds for each stage of your breathing:

* 4 seconds to inhale;
* 4 seconds to keep your lungs full;
* 4 seconds to exhale;
* 4 seconds to keep your lungs empty.

All it takes is 5 minutes. After this time, observe yourself and try to notice your state of mind, your state of being.

Text adapted by Fabs, DeRose Method Tribeca article